What would you do?

[Mrs Bus Driver]

not to be a grinch but I would be all set with the vacation time after time. your SIL sounds like a "princess" who always gets what she wants and her trip is perfect and she isn't willing to budge for anyone. And it's nice that your MIL goes along but it would be nicer if she paid her own way and took care of herself. It is not up to you to take care of and accommodate all the in-laws and their needs at the cost of you own happiness, wants & needs (and $). This is YOUR vacation too!! (and you need good sleep)

For the sake of this vacation I would just go along and do the same ol' same ol' but I would be making it known that this is the LAST time you are doing this. Next time you want to try something new and either your SIL steps up to the plate and helps out with your MIL and is flexible with her side of the trip or you are taking the trip without all of them. This also gives your hubby time to get used to the idea of a different resort (Istayed at CSR once years ago and I loved it, I didn't think it felt over the top Mexican) I know it sounds mean and fresh but this is how they are treating you too and don't seem to mind so it's time for you to stand up for yourself, it's your $ and vacation too! And they will continue to do this (mostly your SIL) if you don't stand your ground.

I am in agreement with the above post, but I also think your husband needs to step up here. Sounds like you have stayed at his favorite resort plenty of times and now it's your turn. He needs to understand the awkwardness of the pickle you're in. He either needs to tell his Mother you're changing resorts or tell his sister she needs to take some responsibility. I've planned a few multi family trips and have been in similar situations about "hurting" a family member's feelings, and they'll get over it, or it's not as big of a deal as you thought.
05-24-2013 08:44 PM

I agree, don't be a doormat or they'll keep on walking all over you.

[disneymom2000]

Wow - doesn't sound like you are enjoying this situation at all. Vacation shouldn't be like that. Hope everything works out.

[disneymomma2010]

Ok guys, I thought long and hard and I'm booking the Coronado! I might love it and I might hate it but I will never know until I try. I'm tired of wondering. It's my vacation and I need to stay where I want to.

I just hope that SIL ends up changing her mind so they will be legit and MIL won't be uncomfortable.

Thanks for listening and all of the advice! I hope it all turns out well!

[PlutoLover]

Good for you way to stand your ground and have a vacation with good sleep