Am I stressing too much?

You only feel as much pressure as you allow yourself to feel.
Confucius

Okay, I just made that up, but seriously, it's a vacation...relax and have fun. You are no doubt putting pressure on yourself because you feel a responsibility for your grandkids to have a great trip. But it's really not that complex. Once I booked our fastpasses before the trip, the rest was a breeze and I in no way felt stressed. Sure, the kids are going to miss out on some stuff because there is so much to do, but with eight days they are going to get a fantastic vacation and take home lots of memories. When you look back, you want to remember enjoying it with them, not worrying about an itinerary.

Have a general idea for what you want to do for each day going in, recognize that if you deviate a bit it's fine, and know that everyone will have a great time.

Mendelson;2465816 wrote: You only feel as much pressure as you allow yourself to feel.
Confucius

Okay, I just made that up, but seriously, it's a vacation...relax and have fun. You are no doubt putting pressure on yourself because you feel a responsibility for your grandkids to have a great trip. But it's really not that complex. Once I booked our fastpasses before the trip, the rest was a breeze and I in no way felt stressed. Sure, the kids are going to miss out on some stuff because there is so much to do, but with eight days they are going to get a fantastic vacation and take home lots of memories. When you look back, you want to remember enjoying it with them, not worrying about an itinerary.

Have a general idea for what you want to do for each day going in, recognize that if you deviate a bit it's fine, and know that everyone will have a great time.

Totally agree with Mendelson!

Stu29573;2465813 wrote: Ok, I admit it, I'm a worrier. However, having admitted that fact, I find myself approaching my family's upcoming December dream vacation with dread. This will be my 8th time to WFW (my grandkid's first) and I have never felt this way before. It seems like the entire process has gotten SO complex (especially FP+) that instead of promising eight carefree days of child-like fun, now I just see rushing for appointments, worrying about not maximizing our time, being concerned with my grandkids missing out on something because I "didn't do it right." I am somewhat heartbroken. Am I stessing too much, or should this really be my last trip?

I feel your pain. We have been putting off a trip back to WDW ever since FP+ started. We have an event to attend there this fall. I am in planning stages now and my FP+ window will be coming up in less than 2 months. I have been dreading having to set up a trip because it is such a pain in the rear now.

If we didn't have the event, we still would not be going.

It annoys me that we have to pre-plan what park we will visit and pick times for rides 2 months ahead of time without having any idea what the weather or crowds will be like. That, however, is not the worst part. For me, the fact that I will have pre-determined times and deadlines to meet while on vacation introduces worry and anxiety into what is supposed to be a vacation. I deal with that mess all day long every day with work and I don't need it on my vacation.

I never would have thought that I would dread going to WDW like I do but they managed to make it a dreadful experience.

1DisneyNut;2465825 wrote:

It annoys me that we have to pre-plan what park we will visit and pick times for rides 2 months ahead of time without having any idea what the weather or crowds will be like. That, however, is not the worst part. For me, the fact that I will have pre-determined times and deadlines to meet while on vacation introduces worry and anxiety into what is supposed to be a vacation. I deal with that mess all day long every day with work and I don't need it on my vacation.

This.

For a long time I've been trying to articulate my feelings towards FP+. I keep seeing arguments about how great it is and how it's really not that different from the old FP system and it's just a matter of getting used to the new way, but that just didn't jive with how I felt. I used FP+ twice, and both times I just felt like I was stuck with a schedule. I was constantly checking the time and foregoing getting in line for one thing because I didn't think that I would be able to make my FP time if I did that other ride. It felt overschedule and very much that I had a series of appointments that I couldn't miss. I spent most of the trip stressing about getting places.

We hated FPP, but still had a good time. I'd say don't spend a lot of time trying to change your FPs.

I am not trying to be a "smart aleck" but you really do not HAVE to plan everything out. You can still go and be spontaneous. Granted, you might miss out on some of the "E-Ticket" rides, but who is to say that they won't be down for rehab at that time?

Do what you can to make sure you and your party will have a good time, schedules be *bleeped* (self-censoring there! LOL)

If this is your grand kids first visit, I can guarantee you that any schedule you come up with will be shot within 30 minutes. Try to hit the major attractions, but let the grand kid lead as much as possible. You maximize your time by getting full enjoyment out of your family, not by hitting everything in every park.

I had big plans for when I took my sister down for her first visit back in May, but the way things played out, we didn't do over half of what I had planned. We still had a blast and she has told me that she would actually like to visit again someday. THAT was a successful and enjoyable visit!!!!

I think the general atmosphere on this forum has unfortunately been impacted recently by all the 'Disney Naysayers' a lot, and if you spend much time reading all the negativity, that tends to stress you out about what you might experience.

My family is going shortly...... and I was getting a bit stressed from all the negative stuff I read here. But then I realized....... a lot of people like to complain... and the complainers can often be loud and very persistent. Their comments end up in a lot of threads... and the feeling of doom just seems to be "everywhere".

But when people are relatively happy...... unfortunately they don't spend a lot of time sitting there and writing posts that express that. They are busy enjoying themselves. They don't feel a need to "vent" someplace.

Given the VAST number of people Disney deals with almost 24/7/365, who often have expectations created in their heads which are difficult to fulfill, and given the complexity of running the operation,.... they do a pretty darn good job.

Does Disney have issues? Sure. Nothing is perfect. Can you have a blast at Disney World? Yes.

Your vacation will have GREAT moments. Will there be some disappointments? Yup. But those disappointments only affect you as much as you LET them impact the trip. If you expect it to be "Perfect" ..... with a capital "P"...... you for sure will be disappointed.

When you go looking for problems, you tend to find them. When you go looking for the good stuff....... you tend to find that also.

Last trip my wife and I had a couple less than "Disney Moments". When they were alerted to that fact when we returned, Disney Customer Service made "nice-nice" about it very generously and professionally and politely. And because those "Not Disney Moments" actually happened last time....... a couple spectacular "Disney Moments" happened right afterward as a consequence to help deal with the situation right then.

John Lennon was a wise man with his "Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans" comment. Lay out a basic ground work in your planning... and then "go with the flow" of the moment. If you feel like it at the time.... for gosh sake..... skip a bloomin' FastPass+........ it won't kill anyone....and if you didn't WANT to do that particular thing right then....... then you are not missing anything. If that particular attraction is important to you later.... then maybe show up early or late to get on it without a Fastpass+. If you HAVE to do it...... you CAN find a way.

It might even mean standing in a line....... but if after all it is THAT important.... you can stand in a line.

After all, it is really all about you and the FAMILY and being together (and particularly the grandkids!). Enjoy the family moments. Use as your yardstick the # of smiles and laughs... not the # of attractions visited. Let the kids play in the water sprinklers. Interact with the street performers. Eat cool stuff. They (and you) will have a blast.

best,

.................john

We are going in September and only got FP+ for one day and that is a first for us. We never have used FP before and never have we needed to. If we don't get to ride everything, there is always the next time. I don't like to sweat the small stuff. Just being at WDW is enough for us and we have a ball every time we go. Your grandkids are going to love just being able to be there and spend time with you. Take a deep breath and go have fun! Your grandkids are going to love it!

So, not to make light of people's concerns, Stu, but there's your answer in these responses. It's all in what you make of it and the attitude you take.

I'm not saying that people who don't like the new system don't have valid complaints nor will I dismiss them as complainers. In some ways I agree with them. But if A. you are indeed taking this vacation and B. FPP is in place, then the way to really not worry about it...is to not worry about it. :-)

I'd say 10 and under probably don't even remember if you used a FP+ or grasp the concept of what is really going on when it comes to planning anything. Kids love controlled chaos. There are certain things that are a must when it comes to planning yes character dining and Ohana need a ADR and getting a FP+ for the newest E-ticket at each park is probably smart, but 3 each day for 5 or 6 days is not always necessary and you can book them and if you don't use them you don't lose anything.

Outline your day, don't make minute by minute itinerary's, your grandkids won't be thinking about what they "missed" they are going to remember what they experienced. Don't treat the vacation as a big checklist of dozens or rides of attractions but enjoy the moment and like others have mentioned just create the memories.

Thanks, everyone. I'm going to try to not stress. I'm hoping that once we are there, the "magic" will kick in. Heck, it may be as simple as getting past the dreaded FP+ sign up date. With a party of 6 with different ages and interests, I really can't picture how that is going to work... Ok, breathe, Stu...

@WILTONJOHN!! :joy::joy:That's what I was thinking too..I'm glad you wrote it. The best way to plan your trip is get all the grand kids that are going and ask them what they would like to do. Pick a park and have them pick 3 rides they really want to ride. If the ages are all over the place than split the rides. I have done this with my passes. This way everyone feels they are getting on the rides they want. Take your time and decide what times are best for you and the kids. Again that's what we do I know we aren't morning people so nothing before noon (ever) What ever rides are left either get new FP's or wait the lines. Once the kids get the rides they really want they are happy and willing to ride whatever. DON'T STRESS IT!!! the kids are going to have fun no matter what. When we traveled with our team of 13 boys, they were happy just to be together and run around the hotel and parks. We never had fast passes and they had just as much fun.

It can be very stressful trying to plan it, but the way I look at it is that it's just there if it falls into my plans for the day. I make them ahead of time with a best guess of what park we will be in and what time we might be in that area. If we are great, if not I'll try to move it. I'm not going to let a FP dictate where I need to be. We always go in September and before FP+ we were lucky to use 1-2 paper FP, so having the option for 3 is already more than I'd ever use historically. My first trip with it last year I was stressed, but once I got there, I just went with the flow and really liked having FP+. Just make the best of it and remember that you will be in Disney World!!!

Granted our DGC a have gone numerous times...but we took them without their parents this year, they were both 8 years old. They each picked three restaurants and collaborated about which FP+ they wanted. I only over ruled once...I wanted Peter pan and they didn't...ten days, so I got that one ride I wanted...smile. It was truly a wonderful trip. Just ask the kids what they want to do, pick a park for each day...and the FP+ isn't that bad. We mostly had them after lunch. Put the three you want in the system and select the times closest that you want...then after you are done, you can go back in and adjust the times to better meet your needs. Just remember they can't overlap.nit does take time, but truly isn't that bad. In 2014 we had 10 people for 14 days....worked out perfectly