I think I have figured out a way to have two cakes without too much friction. I had sent a picture of the cake we wanted to ex-mother-in-law. She said she would get back to me. If I don't hear from her shortly, I'll go ahead with my plans. If they say anything, I'll just reply that they never asked how many people were coming, so I wanted to make sure we had enough cake.
I'll meet you at the Rainbow Bridge.
I talked to a friend of mine today. I told him I know it is ridiculous to obsess over a cake when people are dying of starvation. Ebola's running rampant in Africa. People are being dug out of the ruins of an earthqake in Nepal, and Baltimore is dealing with rioters. He reminded me that I'm just a perfectionist, so we came up with an idea.
The first "station" the guests will come to is "Customs" where people will sign a passport as the guest book. The second "station" is "Declarations" where guests will declare their best wishes for the baby by writing it on a piece of paper to use in the baby book. If she does happen to bring a cake, I think I will set it up at this station as a decoration. It could look cute.
I'll meet you at the Rainbow Bridge.
Cinderelley,
That is a wonderful idea. Ingenious
I think that is a great idea for the cake,
and I admire you putting your daughter first, with it all. You do know what type of people your ex-inlaws are, but you are showing them grace and kindness, which I think speaks of the type of lady you are. Classy, and one that truly loves her children.
Enjoy the shower!
Julie:mickey:
Next Up:
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4 teenagers and Larry
Taking on the parks!
Just invite them because your daughter is excited about them being involved. The cake I would just tell your ex-MIL fine there will be 2 cakes and let her (ex-sil) make one. You never know what happened on that side of the family to make them keep their distance. Your EX could have said things in the past that kept them at bay. Again if your daughter is happy that's all that matters. You never want to be the one that kept this from happening ya know. Happy thoughts!! Happy thoughts!! Lol
You daughter will have to see for herself at her age if this is something she will want to continue with, as far as having them around after the shower.
Been there, done that and going back!!! See ya real soon !!!
I personally think that you should go ahead with your original plans.....If they show up with a cake also ....just serve both of them.
Rita (aka NJGIRL)
About all I have to add to this is wow it is way past time for some people to grow up. It has been 21 years I believe is what was said and there is still talk of throwing punches at current spouses and such. That is so immature it is unreal.
This is so simple to solve it is almost laughable. Most people with ex-spouses and families who don't get along have separate baby showers. Why on Earth would you want to put two families who have a bad history together in a situation that is likely to go bad and ruin one of the most important moments in your child's life. What is most likely to happen is one or both sides will start acting like immature teenagers, cause a big scene and that is what your daughter will always remember instead of it being a joyous occasion. I mean you are making a big deal about a stupid cake for crying out loud.....people can eat it or they can make fun of it or it can get thrown away or whatever and who really cares..........how is the rest of it going to go? lol
However, this is coming from a guy who will send a cousin on their way if they are acting like a immature fool at a family function and not think twice about it.
